Our Newest Trick to Marital Communication

As I wrote about earlier this week, an Associate in my office resigned to pursue a Masters Degree in England.  I was hoping that this news would be a nice jolt to get Adam motivated about his future.  As I've written about previously, in response to a QOTD,  I have felt like our life is in a bit of a holding period as Adam decides his next career move. 

Adam and I are on two different planes in some cases... I am a "get up and go" person, while he needs more quiet, down time to be happy.  At times we nicely balance each other, I motivate him to do stuff, and he helps me take a breather when I need it.  Occasionally, the other person's internal settings drives each one of us bonkers.  In a very similar way, we also have fundamentally different approaches to handling tasks.  I am very much a "take the bull by its horns" kind of a gal, whereas Adam has more of a laid-back method.  It must be a genetic thing, because his brother and wife have a very parallel situation. 

So, Adam said he would seriously consider looking at the MBA option over the summer... well, tick tock, tick tock, it is the end of August and I haven't felt like he's made much progress...  hasn't touched the MBA or GMAT book and barely been on the webpages of schools.... I've found it a little maddening and have brought it up on more than one occasion.... I went through the process of applying to Stern and know how much work is involved in writing the essays, getting recommendations, and taking the GMAT - which all need to be done by Xmas! 

Finally, on Monday it came to a head - No need to rehash that fun evening.  What we learned from that evening of is that I/we need to verbally spell out "This is Important to Me", no matter how obvious I seem to think that is... so, that's our new code.  Curious to see if this woks on other things going forward. 

"THIS IS IMPORTANT TO ME"