QotD: My Thoughts on Prenups
Would you sign a prenuptial agreement? Why or why not?
Submitted by Lantastic.
I think this is a very interesting question..... I would, and Adam said he would too, although we didn't actually go through this when we got married.... I find it frightening how many marriages end in divorce. I think it's important to take care of yourself if finances are unbalanced coming in to the relationship.
I came in to our relationship with a small inheritance from my great-grandmother - nothing to write home about. I had been very upfront with Adam and had asked that if something should happen to me, I would like that money to go back to my family (my sister), even though technically, everything would become his (marital assets and all that). I believe that Adam would honor my wishes.... Adam brought in to the relationship a considerable amount of student loans, so no need to worry about any family fortunes I could absconse with..... (At this point, if he does come in to some family money and we get divorced, I would deserve every penny of my half having dealt with so much crap from my nightmare of a MIL!!!!)
At this point, our salaries are very comparable. Should one of us sacrifice their job for the benefit of our family, I think they would deserve half of our communal assets should we ever go down that unfortunate path....
OK, depressing topic on the same day I write about our anniversary....
Update: It's nice and slow at work and I spent some time reading other Voxers responses to this question. I'm surprised that the majority of posts felt that either prenups were synomous with a lack of trust and confidence in the relationship or that they were good for the rich & famous, but inappropriate/unnecessary for regular-joes. The post that said it best (I wish I remembered who it was so I could link to it) said that a prenup was like insurance. You don't plan on getting in an accident, just like you don't PLAN on getting divorced, but you need to have protect yourself in case it happens.
Being financially secure and having confidence in the success of your relationship CAN coexist!
