10 posts tagged “kids”
Our cleaning lady comes on Thursdays – we've established a pretty good routine when it comes to managing this. We both do the "pre-clean" the night before, I'm responsible for writing her a little note about what to clean, and Adam is responsible for hitting the ATM (we pay her cash) the night before and dropping off the key at the front desk on his way to work.
Today he sends me a note saying "Did you drop the key off? I looked everywhere and couldn't find it." I ended up needing to run home immediately because he couldn't get away and she usually arrives before 8:30am. I didn't want her leaving (and not cleaning!) because she couldn't get in.
I go upstairs thinking the keys had probably fallen off the counter and into our bag of plastic bags. It takes me FIVE SECONDS to find the keys. They were underneath the clean rags I had left out for her. He didn't even LOOK! So annoying!!!
Why wouldn't he look around a little? Why wouldn't he call me before he left the apartment? Why wouldn't he leave HIS key at the front desk so she could at least get in. STUPID MAN! I come back to the office and vent to one of my fellow female analysts. Her response, "Well, brace yourself, they get worse AFTER you have kids" -- Add that to my list of reasons I'm not in a rush to have kiddies yet!!!
I had THE STRANGEST dream last night... Adam came out of the closet!!! He told me he was GAY but still wanted us to have kids... didn't want to shatter the facade of our marriage and tell his parents. Beyond weird!
I woke up all stressed out this morning..... so, that's one way to start the day.
Sent the below email to a bunch of my girlfriends this afternoon. Of course, my loving stepsister responded with "Have something to share with us, Heike?". Um, NO! As I told her, I am sticking with our original plan: We'll have kids when my step-sisters are done and no longer need their highchairs, stollers, car seats, clothes, etc.....
To my dear friends, May none of us ever do anything remotely like this – I promise to talk you off the fence, if you get close to even being pregnant half as many times as these people.…. This woman is insane!!!!
http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20070803/ap_on_fe_st/17_kids_3;_ylt=AjkXmOkzr2d.8w_s_HcCFyIE1vAI
Among the "fun facts" listed on Discovery Health's Web page devoted to the Duggars: A baby has been born in every month except June; the Duggars have gone through an estimated 90,000 diapers, and Michelle, 40, has been pregnant for 126 months — or 10.5 years — of her life.
I feel like a YO-YO when it comes to figuring out when the best time to have kids is - this Cathy cartoon goes a long way in expressing my back & forth. I want Adam to be on board when I feel like I am ready, but can't seem to figure out when that is. We just hired a new Associate at work to join our industry team. It suddenly dawned on me that having a junior underneath me (finally) would make it a whole lot easier for me to take maternity leave, from a workflow perspective, and maybe now is a good time to start thinking of that.
But then we have a weekend like we just had - out with friends till all hours of the night, and I think, "I'm not ready!" Although, there isn't really anything from stopping us from dropping the kids off to stay with grandparents to enjoy some fun, once we do take the plunge.... back and forth I go... we want to travel, we want to buy a house first, I need to take that damn "exam" - when do we have time to raise kids? we aren't ready for the committment a pet entails... BUT, I don't want to wait too long either.... and Adam's brother is expecting now, and it makes us stop and assess where we are.
Anyway... that's my random thought of that day!
I haven't encountered a friend like this yet, but I'm sure its only a matter of time!
For some reason, the fact that I was hungry woke me up last night. After an hour of tossing and turning, I finally got up and had a small bowl of cereal. When I came into the office, I told my friend about this odd behavior and the woman in the office next to him said "oh, oh, the only time I ever ate like that was when I was pregnant. Have any news to share with us?" To which my friend joked that I might start to cry. He's not joking - I had a pregnancy scare a few months back and just the thought of being pregnant made tears stream down my face. It was freakish... so, we had a good chuckle about not being ready for kids.
I sit down to start my day and the first thing I see is an email from my boss (she just remarried and moved her two teenage boys in with her new husband, she's been having trouble keeping up with our workload as she unpacks, tries to sell her house, and keeps an eye on her boys) -- This is how she started her email: Your plan not to mix kids and career will simplify your life to a great extent! My teenagers have been high-maintenance this evening…
Wow. Bad baby-vibe in the air!!! No babies, no babies!!!!
Kids are so much cuter when they aren't yours... and if you only spend a few hours with them. How cute are these two? These are my nephews that are both about 15 months old (and were born only 8 days apart).
This is how Papa & Adam spent the majority of Julian's birthday. Hmmm.... looks like we will be getting a fusse(sp?)-table for our basement as soon as we have a house! I couldn't put up a photo of Anton & Eric without putting up some photos of their big brother/sister. There sure will be a lot of kiddies running around by the time Nicole & I add to the bunch.
We will not be having kids in the near future. That is still two years away, easy!
Last night we babysit for two hours and it really hit home just how much of your time & effort a baby consumes. All of it! My friend D was coming in to Philly from the burbs for some philanthropic organization meeting and we had plans to meet up for a quick drink beforehand so I could meet her 6 week daughter "Baby E" and we could catch up (new mommy craving some adult conversation). I offered to babysit last minute, since she was running late and I thought it would be hard to attend the meeting with infant-in-tow, besides the meeting was only a few blocks from our apartment. I thought it would be fun and good exposure for Ad.
Baby E wasn't any harder to take care of than I thought she would, but at that age all babies are generally futzy. When they are so little, you can't really play with them - all they do is eat, sleep, poop, & cry. We got a taste of all of that! Even when she was gurgling like a happy little baby and required little effort (just sitting on the floor rocking her gently) I realized how much effort it is to have a baby. Your whole life changes and revolves around the well-being of your child. Yikes - I don't think we're quite ready for that yet!
I know that lots of women have that "I want kids" feeling when they are holding a baby, and while I have had fleeting moments of that when holding my niece and nephews I really didn't experience any of that yesterday. I think it felt more "real" being just Adam and I with the baby, and not surrounded by family (and the baby's mommy) the second she got futzy. Also, having her in our apartment made it hit home how much our life would change. I took care of Baby E almost the entire time - Adam was helpful handing me a diaper, moving the rocker, making my dinner, etc. I was so preoccupied with keeping Baby E from crying that I didn't do much of anything else. I can't even tell you what show was on TV while we took care of her.
So, no babies planned for us for awhile.
Adam and I are reving up to become homeowners. More than likely, we will be buying a condo or a townhouse. We probably won't buy anything until after we both get our year end bonuses in February. Saturday was perfect weather to walk around the city so we walked through Olde City and Washington Square before miandering home. We would love to live in the Washington Square area, but it is difficult to gauge if we can afford the neighborhood. We went to two open houses for lofts in Olde City and have determined that loft-living is not for us. We just aren't a big fan of the open ceilings and the gap between the walls and the ceilings - why even have a door if you can hear everything from the other room over the top of the walls? Just seems silly to us - you might as well just live in a studio if you are going to live in a loft.
Visiting places really made us realize that we need to figure out just what our price range is before we do anything else. At the second place we toured, we met a really nice real estate broker who was extremely personable and helpful. We both got a good vibe from him (he wasn't too salesman-y) and think we might use him when we get serious about buying. We need to get pre-approved for a mortgage before we do anything else. Luckily, the fact that Adam works at a bank should be very beneficial, since they offer slightly discounted mortgages to employees.
Adam has spent plenty of hours playing on relator webpages, so we are getting a sense of what is out there. We are starting to narrow down our house criteria.
Here is what we have determined so far:
2 Bedroom/1.5 Bath
At least 1,100 square feet (what we have now, nothing smaller)
30 min or less commute
We aren't willing to spend more on a mortgage than we are currently paying in rent
We really need a place that we can grow into. We plan on having kids in 2 or 3 years and need to buy something that will accomdate our plans. My current thinking is that we would get an au pair for the first year or so, because I would like to continue to work. Maybe after baby #2 I would consider taking time off or working part-time, but I wouldn't want to quit working right away. That would mean that we need a room (and ideally a bathroom) for the au pair. Who knows if we can afford this - I realize I am in la-la-la land right now. That's why getting pre-approved for a mortgage is the next step for us.
We stopped at Borders on our way home yesterday and bought a book for first time home buyers. It has already been extremely helpful and today we started investigating our credit reports. I have a clean bill of health, but we had a lot of trouble accessing Adam's records. I'm sure everything will be fine, but Adam is a little concerned by the uncertainty.
